How to keep the feelings alive through routine and distance — and keep falling for each other again and again.
6 articles
You flirted for months to get this person. Then the relationship became official — and the flirting quietly retired. But flirting was never the bait. It was the language that made the two of you feel like an event.
August 63 min read
“The routine got us,” we say — as if dishes and bills could eat love. But romance isn't killed by routine. It's killed by autopilot: when you no longer see your partner, you just know they're somewhere around.
June 303 min read
You know what bonds couples faster than a nice dinner? Being equally terrible at salsa. There's a particular magic in shared incompetence — and long-term couples, who've gotten so good at their routines, need it more than anyone.
June 223 min read
School, work, circumstances — sometimes miles end up between the two of you. Distance is a real test, but it isn't what breaks couples. Uncertainty and silence are.
April 53 min read
Somewhere between year one and year five, most couples quietly lose a language: the hand on the back in the kitchen, the head on the shoulder during the movie, fingers laced on an ordinary walk. Nobody decides to stop. It just fades — and takes more warmth with it than anyone expects.
February 83 min read
“We just grew apart” might be the most common autopsy of a long relationship — and the most misunderstood. Growth was never the problem. Direction was. People who change are inevitable; people who change as strangers are optional.
December 193 min read